Moving On

     I have been studying the Course in Miracles for over four years now.  I know that I can only ask the Holy Spirit or Jesus to help me see this differently.  Sometimes we feel attacked, which is in essence a cry for love.  If I attack my brother, I attack myself, so the answer is not attack.  This does not mean that I should be a doormat, only that I do not need to play the game, the game of attack.
     Many times one's feelings get hurt.  So what.  Rise above the hurt feelings.  No one ever died from hurt feelings.  For me, this is important.  It means "pull on the big girl pants" and go on.  It does not necessarily mean to simply, "get over it."  It means that forgiveness is seeing things differently, rather than through the ego mind, through the Holy Spirit thought system. 
     For example: recently a friend was talking about a subject I was not comfortable with, and I think she knew it, but I was riding in her car and did not want to say anything, because for the most part we were getting along OK.  I listened, but I never attacked or reacted.  Instead, I said "why don't you pray about it?"
      We had liked the same guy at one time and I had actually had a relationship with him, but since she met him first, I let her have her way in terms of the topic.  At one time, though, when I still cared, this would not have been the case.  The thing is, I moved on even though I was with him, and she has not moved on, and obviously does not want to move on.  She does not seem to care if I have any lingering feelings, but I do not so it really does not matter.  I do not stay in the past.  I go forward and commit to who I am actually with, if I am with someone.